Greek life? Yes. Really.

By Phil Ballentine

Published: Thursday, April 26, 2012

Updated: Thursday, April 26, 2012

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Oliver Porter / The Tufts Daily

It was with consternation that I read yesterday’s op−ed, “Pledging to never rush: a criticism of Greek life at Tufts,” by Lauren Border, attacking Greek life at Tufts. Briefly, the op−ed accused Tufts’ fraternities and sororities of being individuality−destroying, destructive institutions with a malevolent grasp of social life on campus.

Border’s assertions come flying in a rush of appeals to stereotypes and controversial assertions presented as “common knowledge.” Two of its points stand out to me, and I can personally respond to them, having been a brother in Theta Chi Fraternity at Tufts for the last year and having many dear friends in other Greek houses across campus.

“Again, I ask, how much of yourself are you willing to scrape away at to join a sorority/fraternity: your pride? Your health? Your overall sense of self−worth?”

Thirteen percent of Tufts undergraduates are engaged in Greek life. We are everywhere on campus. To take one example among Tufts’ sixteen Greek organizations, Theta Chi is a collection of strong personalities, including the President of the Pan−African Alliance, the President of Tufts Queer−Straight Alliance, the President of the Arab Students Association, a freshman class president, a record−breaking track−team member, three JumpStart educators and a co−chair of the Programming Board, to name just a few. Being in Theta Chi doesn’t rob us of our individuality, self−worth or pride. If it did, we would never have joined in the first place and certainly wouldn’t continue now. We disagree on and argue constantly about politics, religion, music, philanthropy, current events and every other issue imaginable.

“Some say [Greek organizations are] known for philanthropy, and, well, really?”

The op−ed’s argument against the philanthropy of Greek houses starts and ends with: “really?” It gives no further effort to arguing this point, as though it should be obvious that Tufts’ Greek houses don’t do real philanthropy.

In short, my response is, “Yes. Really.”

Before writing those words, Border could have talked to some of my brothers: for instance, Sari Abboud, who brought Theta Chi together to raise $800 for the Red Crescent in Syria after several relatives were killed in the uprising and crackdown. Or perhaps to Dan Halpert, a senior leading Theta Chi brothers in selling shirts to raise money for Bike and Build, a charity that provides affordable housing — and who will personally be biking across America this summer to raise money for the same charity. If she had looked at FOCUS, the community service pre−orientation, she might have seen that dozens of its leaders, including the last four years of coordinators, have been Theta Chi brothers.

Outside of Theta Chi, she could have consulted with the Zeta Beta Tau brothers who raised more than $3,000 for Children’s Hospital Boston or the Alpha Omicron Pi sisters who raised almost $1,800 for juvenile arthritis this semester. If she attended Relay for Life this year, Border must have seen the plethora of lettered men and women participating.

These are only some of the Greek philanthropy events from this year in which I have personally participated; there are many, many more. Border should have consulted with any one of the Greek houses’ philanthropy chairs to see the tangible community service contributions our houses have made before she dismissed them with, “Really?” But she did not, which brings me to the biggest problem with the op−ed.

Like Samuel Daniel’s Mar. 14 op−ed entitled “No one at this school is racist,” Border’s op−ed exhibits a lack of experience or interest in truly investigating the issues at hand. It appeals to stereotypes to fill this gap in the writing. I invite Border and anyone who agrees with her on the topic of Tufts Greek life to actually come to our houses, talk to us and get to know us better. Our doors are open for recruitment every semester, and our members are all over campus, eager to speak with anyone what our brother− and sisterhoods mean to us.

As a freshman, I never thought I would join a fraternity because of negative stereotypes and false assumptions about fraternities. Looking back, I realize that, like Border, I had no idea what Greek life at Tufts was actually like. My discovery of the truth — that fraternities and sororities are dynamic, diverse communities of driven individuals — has hugely enriched my experience at Tufts. I implore anyone who agrees with Border’s recent op−ed to not be satisfied with stereotypes and baseless assertions and to come talk to us about what Greek life at Tufts is actually about instead.

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Phil Ballentine is a sophomore majoring in Chinese. He is the Alumni Co-Chair in the Theta Chi fraternity. 

Comments

11 comments
Frank Parks
Fri Jun 8 2012 19:41
"Like Samuel Daniel's Mar. 14 op−ed entitled "No one at this school is racist," Border's op−ed exhibits a lack of experience or interest in truly investigating the issues at hand."

This is an entirely inaccurate statement any way you look at this, and it is obvious the author is manipulating people into agreeing with him by placing Border's thoughts on the level of someone else who wrote an unfavorable piece, but for entirely different reasons.

If you look at the two Op-Eds, they are entirely different pieces all together and it is insulting to Border's intelligence and feminist theory used in her article. Daniel's denies the existence of oppression at Tufts. Border is identifying it when people would prefer to look the other way, at the risk of her own reputation and social standing. She is friends with many Greek members personally, hence both the backlash of people who felt betrayed by her and the people who don't know her well enough to know she knows how Greek life functions very well indeed.

aa
Tue May 1 2012 09:46
mr parker - you probably should have had a bro proofread your comment. you perpetuate the stereotype quite nicely on your own.
tim parker
Mon Apr 30 2012 19:53
@Big Elephant
As someone who joined greek life, originally with negative view of fraternities, I am proud to say that I was made the man I am today based on the ideals I was taught. For starters I would never insult a group of men, that I have had very limited interactions with, as "morally depraved group of boys, who contribute to society in the most superficial way, and represent humanity at its worst." If you had a bad experience with greek life, I am truly sorry things did not work out, but that gave you no right to call me "morally deprived."
From my experience, people who make these judgements are usually doing so based of the stereotypical "frat party" synonymous with binge drinking and chaos. Something I have always found funny about this is that most of those "morally deprived" individuals you see are non-greeks who paid money to get into a party. As unfortunate as it is that some frats have to resort to throwing these parties; I personally do not agree with them, but it is a way to pay for all the supplies needed for charity fund raisers. The people who you are judging and insulting are your fellow classmates that were so desperate to party they resorted to going to a frat house and paying money. I always get a kick out of it because the people that hate going to them are usually the ones funding the fraternity's projects the most. Irony, but don't worry like I said the money you give to us is actually reinvested in these $800 dollar charity events your so disappointed with. Who knows though, you might have just watch animal house and now can be a self proclaimed expert on greek life at tufts.
If you want to congratulate yourself for flossing your teeth in the morning go for it. Or if you want to congratulate yourself for posting a comment that perpetuates a stereotype that greeks are moral scum go for it. I personally do not care anymore because I know I have done nothing wrong and have lived my life to a very high standard. I consider myself a gentleman and am always willing to help anyone in need, regardless of their opinion of me. As someone that does not drink and is also greek (i know jaw dropping but we exist) I was never forced to drink during any pledging events or even as a brother. Maybe its because I had morals along with the fraternity I joined.
Also I heard that the soccer teams haze their freshman by making them run a mile naked. I also heard Tufts football does drugs and hooker parties after every big win. Stop spreading rumors and acting so self righteous in subjects you have no experience with.
tim parker
Mon Apr 30 2012 19:46
@Big Elephant
As someone who joined greek life, originally with negative view of fraternities, I am proud to say that I was made the man I am today based on the ideals I was taught. For starters I would never insult a group of men, that I have had very limited interactions with, as "morally depraved group of boys, who contribute to society in the most superficial way, and represent humanity at its worst." If you had a bad experience with greek life, I am truly sorry things did not work out, but that gave you no right to call me "morally deprived."
From my experience, people who make these judgements are usually doing so based of the stereotypical "frat party" synonymous with binge drinking and chaos. Something I have always found funny about this is that most of those "morally deprived" individuals you see are non-greeks who paid money to get into a party. As unfortunate as it is that some frats have to resort to throwing these parties; I personally do not agree with them, but it is a way to pay for all the supplies needed for charity fund raisers. The people who you are judging and insulting are your fellow classmates that were so desperate to party they resorted to going to a frat house and paying money. I always get a kick out of it because the people that hate going to them are usually the ones funding the fraternity's projects the most. Irony, but don't worry like I said the money you give to us is actually reinvested in these $800 dollar charity events your so disappointed with. Who knows though, you might have just watch animal house and now can be a self proclaimed expert on greek life at tufts.
If you want to congratulate yourself for flossing your teeth in the morning go for it. Or if you want to congratulate yourself for posting a comment that perpetuates a stereotype that greeks are moral scum go for it. I personally do not care anymore because I know I have done nothing wrong and have lived my life to a very high standard. I consider myself a gentleman and am always willing to help anyone in need, regardless of their opinion of me. As someone that does not drink and is also greek (i know jaw dropping but we exist) I was never forced to drink during any pledging events or even as a brother. Maybe its because I had morals along with the fraternity I joined.
Also I heard that the soccer teams haze their freshman by making them run a mile naked. I also heard Tufts football does drugs and hooker parties after every big win. Stop spreading rumors and acting so self righteous in subjects you have no experience with.
tim parker
Mon Apr 30 2012 19:31
@Big Elephant
As someone who joined greek life, originally with negative view of fraternities, I am proud to say that I was made the man I am today based on the ideals I was taught. For starters I would never insult a group of men, that I have had very limited interactions with, as "morally depraved group of boys, who contribute to society in the most superficial way, and represent humanity at its worst." If you had a bad experience with greek life, I am truly sorry things did not work out, but that gave you no right to call me "morally deprived."
From my experience, people who make these judgements are usually doing so based of the stereotypical "frat party" synonymous with binge drinking and chaos. Something I have always found funny about this is that most of those "morally deprived" individuals you see are non-greeks who paid money to get into a party. As unfortunate as it is that some frats have to resort to throwing these parties; I personally do not agree with them, but it is a way to pay for all the supplies needed for charity fund raisers. The people who you are judging and insulting are your fellow classmates that were so desperate to party they resorted to going to a frat house and paying money. I always get a kick out of it because the people that hate going to them are usually the ones funding the fraternity's projects the most. Irony, but don't worry like I said the money you give to us is actually reinvested in these $800 dollar charity events your so disappointed with. Who knows though, you might have just watch animal house and now can be a self proclaimed expert on greek life at tufts.
If you want to congratulate yourself for flossing your teeth in the morning go for it. Or if you want to congratulate yourself for posting a comment that perpetuates a stereotype that greeks are moral scum go for it. I personally do not care anymore because I know I have done nothing wrong and have lived my life to a very high standard. I consider myself a gentleman and am always willing to help anyone in need, regardless of their opinion of me. As someone that does not drink and is also greek (i know jaw dropping but we exist) I was never forced to drink during any pledging events or even as a brother. Maybe its because I had morals along with the fraternity I joined.
Also I heard that the soccer teams haze their freshman by making them run a mile naked. I also heard Tufts football does drugs and hooker parties after every big win. Stop spreading rumors and acting so self righteous in subjects you have no experience with.
Anonymous
Mon Apr 30 2012 14:43
"Like Samuel Daniel's Mar. 14 op−ed entitled "No one at this school is racist," Border's op−ed exhibits a lack of experience or interest in truly investigating the issues at hand."

Because frat boys are so similar to oppressed minorities.

Stephen Deming
Mon Apr 30 2012 13:08
to big elephant: how are men and women who choose to join a brotherhood or sisterhood proving to you that they aren't good people. And how dare you knock the philanthropic work of 13% of YOUR campus. What have you done that is better? I'm sure the organizations that receive the money raised by these student leaders are incredibly grateful for it. If you don't like or agree with Greek Life, then do so quietly, because you'll have 13% of your own campus against you. That being said, great article brother Ballentine. L&R
amylhn
Sat Apr 28 2012 22:43
@Ter, his name is Blake Michael- commenting isn't as anonymous as people think, the name associated with your account shows up next to your comment on the sidebar.
Ter Magnusson
Sat Apr 28 2012 20:17
@Big Elephant. If you have this supposedly scandalous information, why not divulge it? Too cowardly to post under your own name, you prattle on about supposedly salacious events taking place at the author's fraternity during the pledging process. Why not say it here in the Daily, and let in some fresh air? If the pledging process is so dreadful, wouldn't you be doing a service to prospective pledges, warning them before they get in too deep? All of this anecdotal evidence. Why not enlighten us?

"you are still part of a morally depraved group of boys, who contribute to society in the most superficial way, and represent humanity at its worst."

Who died and made you the Pope, anyway? Yeah, they sometimes goof off. That's college. I'm pretty sure that you don't (or didn't, if you're an alum) spend your free time singing "Jesus Loves Me, Yes I Know" in Goddard Chapel. By whose estimation are you measuring their "moral depravity?" Your passing of judgement on them for enjoying themselves is exactly what Tufts' founder, Hosea Ballou, preached against: check for planks in your own eye pointing out the motes in the eyes of others.

As for the $800, how much money have your extracurricular groups been raising lately? I'm part of a social justice organization at Tufts, and I saw $800 as a fortune when raised on this incredibly over-programmed campus. It seems that they can't win: if they just party you condemn them for that. But, when they try to do something good and raise some money, you pooh-pooh that, as well.

What a foul, smarmy, concern-trolling comment. I hope visitors to the Daily's website don't take your bad attitude to be that of the average Tufts student. Tufts is better than that.

Amy Brownstein
Thu Apr 26 2012 12:13
I am a '92 alum, reading the exchange of opinions with interest. I was a member of a sorority while at Tufts and, 20 years after graduation, am still in regular - frequently daily - contact with my sorority sisters, who are some of my closest friends to this day. The sisters of our chapter have maintained that bond, and I expect it to last a lifetime. In fact, nearly all of the former Tufts classmates with whom I am still in contact were my sorority sisters. To me, that has been the greatest reward of participation in the Greek system.
Blake Michael
Thu Apr 26 2012 11:50
This all sounds good, Phil. Now, could you describe what pledging is like in your fraternity, specifically at the end of the process? I knew someone that de-pledged your fraternity after witnessing what occurred and discovering what was expected of him on one of the final nights. Perhaps today it's truly as rosy as you describe, but what's that stench in the basement?

You all can be as philanthropic as you want, but if your fraternity behaves the way many do (and the way I have anecdotal evidence to suggest yours did in the past), you are still part of a morally depraved group of boys, who contribute to society in the most superficial way, and represent humanity at its worst.

It's nice that your brothers are in positions of politics and leadership in the Tufts community, however, just the fact alone that one is active in this way doesn't mean that he is a good person, much less that the fraternity that he is coming from is doing good or has has made them a better person. Have you ever noticed how common it is in the world for "leaders" and politicians to have elements of their personal lives that raise question about their character?

As a final side note, if you are proud of the fact that a fraternity of what? 40 members raised $800 for a good cause, then I think it's time to raise the bar a little bit.... Not that little amounts don't count, but come on! I flossed my teeth this morning. Do I deserve a congratulations?

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