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Why we must not target the Mormon Church

By Gregory M. Kastelman

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Published: Monday, November 17, 2008

Updated: Monday, November 17, 2008

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I feel very wronged. Proposition 8 has stripped me and hundreds of thousands of Californians of the basic civil right to marry. The passing of Prop 8 is a huge setback for human rights in America.

We should never stand for "separate but equal" institutions because they never work out to be equal in practice. Demeaning people for wanting to be with the love of their lives is outrageous in this day and age.

It shows us that there is still more work to be done to eliminate discrimination in this country and that we must work tirelessly to do so. I cannot state strongly enough how saddened I am by those citizens who voted not with their hearts but with their prejudices.

Now is the time when we must be the moral leaders. Specifically targeting the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is not the solution. I was saddened to see how many signs at the rallies on Nov. 15 targeted the Mormon religion, bigamy and their revered leader Joseph Smith, Jr.

Mormons did not create homophobia, and they were not the only people who voted for Prop 8. In fact, people of all religions and persuasions voted for it, even some gay men and women.

Other religious organizations contributed monetarily to the campaign to pass Prop 8 as well. While I am saddened by the lack of Mormon resistance to Prop 8 -- many Mormons are truly wonderful people -- it is wrong to demean their religion because of the actions of some.

As a Jewish man, I cannot and will not condone hate mongering of any religion. I know too well how my religion has been targeted for over two millennia, how we have been wrongly blamed for a litany of crimes we never committed. While Mormons contributed significantly to the campaign, it is counterproductive to single them out. Doing so may only make them feel even firmer about their beliefs, and this is obviously not our objective.

We must show them and all peoples that we have respect. An eye for an eye makes everyone blind. We must show the world our true colors, our strengths and our beautiful humanity. This is what we must do. We must not discriminate against those who discriminate against us. Though I am not a Christian, I believe the right thing to do now is to turn the other cheek. To follow in the footsteps of Mahatma Ghandi, Martin Luther King Jr., César Chavez, Harvey Milk and others like them will ultimately be our greatest achievement.

We are strong. We are right. We will persevere. We will not succumb to cowardice, prejudice or hatred. The rallies on Nov. 15 were a beautiful representation of our determined will to do the right thing. Let's not taint this achievement with scapegoating or religious hatred.

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Comments

29 comments
Also Craig
Mon Nov 17 2008 13:37
I am a mormon and a Tufts grad. I don't hate gays, nor do I personally know any other mormons who hate gays. I have never even heard any sort of anti-rhetoric preached in my church. Seeing my church singled out as the target of violence and terrorism has been interesting. I'm not sure that the people organizing these things understand our history and that this sort of activity will have the opposite result from the one they desire. Mormons are quiet and resolute. We don't do protests, as a rule. That's why you'd never see mormons trying to demonstrate at a courthouse doing gay weddings in order to prevent access.

I did not personally participate on either side of the Prop 8 issue. If I had been a californian, though, I'm sure I would have at least made a monetary contribution. Most mormons saw Prop 8 as "pro-family", not "anti-gay". We're generally not "anti" anything. The church never endorses political candidates, and only gets involved on ballot issues when it feels there is an impact on families. Then it picks the side that it feels will help the most families. Clearly, in this case, the church leaders thought that prop 8 would strengthen more families that it would hurt.

The anti-mormon rage will backfire. The mormons have experienced much worse than this in the past, including several massacres. We thrive on persecution, so these shameful acts of physical intimidation will only strengthen peoples resolve to vote their conscience.

Brian
Mon Nov 17 2008 13:12
I agree with this article. They gays have made alot of mistakes and continue to do so. They show intolerance while preaching tolerance. They are proving the supposed "false advertising" to be true by going after the people who disagree with them. Many of the protests are trying to take tax exempt status away from religions. They are not taking the higher road which I feel would get people to be much more sympathetic.
Lori
Mon Nov 17 2008 12:42
Elton John does not speak for me, much as I respect his decision not to marry. That's the point - respecting others' decisions to marry or not. Much as I appreciate the invocation of peace, I prefer peaceful protest against the very visible oppressors - and here, the Mormon Church is the biggest by far. Because they vociferously banged the drum for financial support and foot soldiers in support of Prop 8, all in the name of 'protecting marriage and protecting family' I will hold them accountable. My wedding this summer was the most beautiful single day of my life. My 12 year old stepson cried when he heard Prop 8 passed, asked his mother if I had to move out of our home, whether we were now illegal. But the Mormons wish my family and my marriage HARM, worked tirelessly to strip my family of rights, and through their own actions became the face of the enemy. My marriage hurt no one; my son's tears were real.
Your name
Mon Nov 17 2008 12:31
Craig, be tolerant of intolerance all you want, just don't expect reasonable people to follow your lead.
Craig
Mon Nov 17 2008 11:23
What a refreshing and calm response, Gregory. I think there is still room, in our society, to be tolerant of intolerance. Interestingly, this would seem to apply to both sides of the post-election debate. Thanks for stating so clearly what I think should be said.
Shelly
Mon Nov 17 2008 11:11
Best article from the No side yet. I have been "awakened" by the protests and it has not been in a good way. I never realized how vile and angry a group will get towards religion over a peaceful act of voting.
boycott the haters and bigots
Mon Nov 17 2008 10:21
The movement isn't singling out the Mormon Church (actually whose name is the "Presidency Corporation" or something like that) - WE'RE TARGETING ALL WHO GAVE MONEY TO PRACTICE HATE!!! We're just starting at the top and working our way down. And when I say targeting - look, do you really expect us (GBLT) to spend our dollars to those who will use it against us?? Personally, I don't think the word marriage should be in our governemnt - just like I don't think we should call a legislative meeting a "communion".
John S.
Mon Nov 17 2008 08:54
Gregory,

Thank you for not condoning hate mongering of religions. This latest activism is only hurting the Gay causes. The very people they want to win over are now more entrenched. Before the election, No on 8 supporters claimed that Gay Marriage would not infringe on Religion, but now they are scapegoating religion.

I am sorry that you feel wronged and feel that your civil rights to marry have been taken away. In California one can form a Civil Union which has all the same rights as Marriage by law. The basic rights to inheritance, hospital visits, healthcare directives, healthcare for partners, should be part of the Civil Union. If the term Civil Union is not acceptable, then please come up with a better term that fits your union. Please see Elton John's comments.

NEW YORK — Elton John, accompanied by his longtime partner, David Furnish, had some choice words about California's Proposition 8, the ban on same-sex marriage that passed on Nov. 44, 2008.

In December 2005, John and Furnish tied the knot in a civil partnership ceremony in Windsor, England. But, clarified the singer, "We're not married. Let's get that right. We have a civil partnership. What is wrong with Proposition 8 is that they went for marriage. Marriage is going to put a lot of people off, the word marriage."

"I don't want to be married. I'm very happy with a civil partnership. If gay people want to get married, or get together, they should have a civil partnership," John says. "The word 'marriage,' I think, puts a lot of people off.

"You get the same equal rights that we do when we have a civil partnership. Heterosexual people get married. We can have civil partnerships."

Alex
Mon Nov 17 2008 08:49
Kind words. How sad that you had to go out of your way to avoid specifically invoking Jesus Christ, a Jew, but instead invoked Milk. Telling.






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