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Q: Angie, this is pretty bad. I've been having really naughty thoughts about one of my female professors. I feel like she pays attention to me more than the other guys in the class and she may even be making some moves on me. Can I even consider acting on this?? - Distracted in Class



A: Okay, I'm going to give you some words of wisdom, so listen up: Just because it happened in a teen movie does NOT make it okay in real life! I would consider this one of those times where this applies. So, to answer your question, this is probably a really, really, really bad idea. First of all, if you're attracted to her, your perception is obviously skewed. You're looking for any reason to think she's interested in you as well. Now, seriously examine the reasons for your crush -- is it her you're attracted to, or the idea of her in an authority position? Have you generally had crushes on teachers before? I'd be willing to bet that some of this attraction is fueled by her being unattainable, as much as you think you like her as a person. As exciting as you think this is, it would cause far too many problems to be at all worthwhile. If, for some reason, you two happen to cross paths one day in another setting, under different circumstances, then maybe it would be appropriate. For now, however, try to pay attention to whatever it is she's teaching in class.



Q: Dear Angie, my boyfriend is really into body piercing and wants me to get one for my tongue or a "private area". He says this really turns him on and has been asking for a while. I'm not really into this, but I don't want him to get pissed at me. What do I do? - Afraid of Needles



A: It's your body, not his, and that's what this should come down to in the end. If he gets turned on by holes in skin, that's great for him, but he's in no position to force you to get something you don't want. There is absolutely no reason he should be getting "pissed" at you over this. If he tells you he can't get turned on without a piercing, that's his fetish and not your problem. If you decide to get something pierced, that has to be your personal decision! (And definitely make sure you go to a reputable place to get it done that has proper sterilization equipment!) If you talk to him and tell him you're against this, but he still gets angry with you, maybe you should ask yourself whether this is someone you actually want to be in a relationship with.



Q: Dear Angie, I've got these two guy friends. I've got chemistry with both of them, and one of them finally made his move last week. He and I have been hooking up and I think we might be getting together. I feel badly about the other guy though, should I tell him I'm now taken? - Guilty Friend



A: You don't really have any obligation to tell your other friend that you're getting it on with someone else, since as you described, the extent of your physical relationship stopped at an initial chemistry. I'm sure that, as your friend, he would like to hear about your new experiences with this other guy -- assuming, of course, that he's actually in it for the friendship and not just some booty himself. This won't be a big deal to your friend unless you make it a big deal. After all, you never made any promises about being together. You should not, however, be dragging this guy along as a backup plan in case this other dude doesn't work out. Be prepared for the chemistry to slip away as he realizes that you're not on the market anymore.