What's Your Problem?
August 31Sexual tensions on the rise? Suffering from foot-in-mouth syndrome? Freaking out about midterms? Email The Daily's own "Dr." K at askdoctork@yahoo.com to get answers to your most pressing issues.Q: Dear Dr. K,I've been told that I'm a good-looking guy. But I'm also a friendly guy. And recently, I've been noticing that when I say hi to girls on the street, I'm always smiling and waving. And I was thinking: is this cool? Should I be acting all excited around all these girls or should I just play it cool and collected and act like I have somewhere better to be? Do girls like a guy with a little air of mystique about him?What should I do, Dr. K?-Friendly and FrustratedA: Ask yourself this question: are you looking for true romance or some hot lovin' in the form of late night booty calls? If your answer involves the former, then you should just be yourself - good-looking and unable to contain your, um, "excitement" upon meeting a potential love interest. If you want to build an eventual relationship, it's best to start off showing your true colors from the start. After all, if you put on this macho fa?§ade and act coolly indifferent, then when the girl finally sees how truly fun-loving and goofy you are then she may be freaked out (or at least confused) as to why your personality suddenly did a 180. Now, if booty beckoning is your main concern right now, then that is a totally different situation. It might just be in your best interest to act a little bit mysterious. After all, there is something truly sexy about someone who seems to be a bit secretive and has an air of mystique about them. This is not to suggest that you should act totally out of character, but perhaps holding back some of your enthusiasm might be a good idea if you're looking to get busy. A girl will probably find your slightly cooler attitude intriguing, so if you want to appear cool, then you've got to act that way! The bottom line: girls (and guys) are definitely attracted to people with an air of mystique about them, probably because it keeps them wondering what secrets the person is concealing. But people who are easy to talk to, interesting, and friendly are definitely more appealing when looking for someone to have a relationship with. So my friendly and frustrated friend, you must decide what you are looking for in a girl and figure out what message you are trying to get across and you will attract someone who will suit your needs. Q: Dear Dr. K,I have a patch of hair on my lower back and it kind of pisses me off. Imean, it's not that big of a deal - it's just a little hair - but I'msomewhat self-conscious about it and it definitely stands out when I'm atthe beach or in the pool. I've thought a little about perhaps getting havingpermanent hair removal or something along those lines, but that just seems alittle extreme. What do you think? Is this something that I should be soself-conscious about? Or should I just forget it and just accept myself the way I am?- FuzzyA: Ah, the joys of extraneous body hair. If you're serious about removing some of your freaky fuzz, you've got several options: 1) You could get it waxed. This involves going to a hair salon and putting your trust into the wax specialist who will proceed to cover you in hot wax and rip the hair out by the root. Unless you've got some sort of kinky fetish, this procedure hurts! The hair will stay off for about two weeks, which would be a good solution if you were going on vacation or something and needed a quick removal.2) Consider electrolysis. This is a permanent hair removal, which is costly but will rid you of the fuzz. Several visits will be necessary, as will a lot of money from your savings account.3) Shave it - although I wouldn't recommend it, unless you want to start investing in a load of razor refills. But before you run out to make an appointment, take a second to think about whether this is seriously something you need to do to feel better about yourself. You have to realize that every single person has some flaw that they see in themselves. So you've got a little bit of extra back fuzz. Big deal! At least you're not one of those guys who can easily be mistaken for an orangutan when viewed from the back. If you're happy with yourself for who you are, then a little bit of extra back hair shouldn't interfere with your hopes, dreams, and life goals. And really, who the hell cares if anyone scrutinizes you for your genetic makeup? So, my advice is to suck it up and deal with the way you were built - and be proud of yourself! You'll save yourself the time it would take to go through shaving it, the sheer agony to go through waxing, and the serious cash it would take to get electrolysis. Instead, focus on your own life - back hair and all.

