Sharper Advice: Being niche is a state of mind
Q: How can I be niche without seeming like I’m trying too hard? I feel like everyone here thinks they are niche but they actually all just follow the trends and dress the same. What should I do?
Q: How can I be niche without seeming like I’m trying too hard? I feel like everyone here thinks they are niche but they actually all just follow the trends and dress the same. What should I do?
Q: How can I be niche without seeming like I’m trying too hard? I feel like everyone here thinks they are niche but they actually all just follow the trends and dress the same. What should I do?
Q: I moved far away for college and have been struggling in ways I didn’t expect. With classes starting, I’ve been feeling guilty for being so busy and not being as involved at home. Honestly, I don’t know how to stay close to them…
Q: I’m a freshman, and it’s my first week here. My roommate already has a whole friend group and my orientation leader keeps saying “It’s a marathon, not a sprint,” like that’s supposed to help. I’ve already eaten alone at Dewick twice. Am I doing college wrong?
It’s good that you think of college as a high, because that means nostalgia has taken over and you’re remembering just the good stuff. In reality, I’m sure the last four years have consisted of avoiding laundry until you were down to your last pair of underwear, waiting 106 minutes for a Hodge sandwich and getting repeatedly burned by the sheer amount of nonchalant men on this campus. But right now, none of that matters. Celebrate your achievement. At the very least, you made it to graduation.
The sun is out, and Prez Lawn is the hottest spot on campus for athletes who think that shower shoes are an appropriate everyday choice and whose newest spring accessory is a 128-ounce plastic water jug. However, with that comes finals that quietly creep over the horizon, signalling that the semester is coming to a close. It’s bittersweet, as our time with you is also coming to an end, and we’ve truly enjoyed every minute hearing about your naughty little lives. For our final week, we’d like to offer you a rapid-fire advice session on all the questions and confessions we’ve accumulated over the course of the semester that have not yet seen the light of day.
Q: My boyfriend told me he loves me, but idk if I should say it back, and tbh it feels very soon. I like him a lot, but I’m not sure if what I’m feeling is actually love. What should I do?
Q: I’m still figuring out my friend group. Some people seem nice, but I’m not sure if they’re actually going to be my ‘forever’ friends. How can I tell the difference? I don’t want to get too invested in people who might not stick around, but I also don’t want to miss out on friendships that could actually last.
Q: Someone I hooked up with last year is now stalking me. He has my home address and everything. I blocked him, but now I’m worried that he’s gonna show up at my house. Should I go to the police or what?
Q: I’m in a situationship that includes everything except commitment and basic clarity. I caught feelings but I don’t think they’re ready to commit, so I’m wondering: How do I turn my situationship into a relationship?
Q: I’m late on my period… Should I tell my slink?
F--k the high road. We’ve all been told it’s something we’re supposed to take (and if you weren’t … respectfully, we can tell). Unfortunately, now that you’re college-aged, morally it would look like you’re the asshole if you didn’t. But when did ‘being the bigger person’ stop meaning ‘don’t shove that girl on the playground for insulting your shoes,’ and start meaning ‘swallow those very real, very valid emotions like they’re character flaws’?
Q: I found someone who wants to be my sugar daddy. ... He said it would only be FaceTime ‘dates’ for online shopping (while I’m in a low-cut top). A couple hundred for the first call. Should I do it?
Q: I’m worried my girlfriend isn’t into me anymore. How do I know for sure?A: Well, if you have to ask, buddy (I’m assuming you’re a man because most women would already know), you might already have the answer. Crowdsourcing information about your relationship is rarely a sign things are running smoothly.
Q: I’ve been with my boyfriend for 7 months now and honestly I’m starting to think we’d be better off as friends. … He’s a really nice guy but I’m just not sure how into it I am anymore. All this to say, I need to know, how do I politely break up with someone?
For life’s most absurd, wild and confusing moments, sometimes you need to turn to a stranger for unbiased and honest advice (unbiased is the key word here). I know your friend said it was totally fine to text him back, but she’s a people pleaser who will say what you want to hear. I’ll tell you the truth.
I often stay up too late because I want to decompress after a long day of activities and homework, so I end up scrolling on my phone. The problem is I don’t get enough sleep and feel grumpy the next day. How can I relax at night without staying up too late — and still have phone time?
We are two friends (and housemates) Kate and Eric. We move through the world very differently. So submit your queries, problems, questions and musings to get both of our unique perspectives. Our qualifications: Someone asked us to do this.
Welcome back, for the final time, to “Hearts on the Hill.” Here we are — our last lap around the sun. I warned you a couple of weeks ago that this last edition would come with a certain sentimentality that might be off-putting to my underclassmen readers. I’ll insert that reminder again here, for those like me who are avoiding thinking about the passage of time.
It’s another Friday morning on the hill. I say that partly because it has a nice ring to it and partly because it helps me process the little time we have left together.
I hope you have spent the last couple of weeks soaking up plenty of sun and sleep to get you through the home stretch of the semester. Maybe you watched your favorite rom-com on the plane, took in your newest romance beach read or simply spent your break lying at home yearning. Regardless, we are back in full swing with only a little over a month left in the semester.